One thing that wasn't said here, is that it is pointless for you to receive small packs of defense with big gaps of time between them. The enemy will just keep clearing them without barely loosing any troops. Packet defense is the best but for your case, you need it all to land within a short period of time.
This is what I would do:
1. Study your enemy. Learn the most you can about him. You should try to figure out your enemy's sleep time or less active time. You should know what he sends to farm you and what he has as a backup if you kill his farming raid.
2. You are trying to recover from a bad situation and your enemy has everything more than you. The only way you will recover from that place is if you become more active than your enemy and if you do no mistakes. So be active, when you are online you need to dodge all his attacks, you need to farm to get resources, you need to keep your queues always producing more troops, you need to spend all your resources before his troops farm you.
3. When you can't be online to dodge the attacks, send your troops to farm a barb as far away as half of the time it will take for you to return. That way, if he attacks, he won't kill your troops. What matters is that you save your troops and use them to get the most resources you can and in the end use them to kill your enemy.
4. While you do #2 and #3, forget the wall, it's a pointless building until you are ready to defend.
5. Use one of the available sims (they aren't very accurate but better than anything) and check what amount of troops you would require to kill the troops he is sending, and whatever he will send next once he realizes you killed him. Don't try to defend or request support unless you are sure you have gathered enough.
6. Once you've done your part, set a landing time and request your tribemates to send you all support they can, landing at a specific time (within the no activity time of your enemy).
7. Now it is the time for you to raise that wall as high as you can.
8. If you can request also 3 or 4 paladins and put each one with a different weapon to boost your defense.
Anyway, this is early in the game for you, if I were you I would take this as a learning experience. I would try to do everything right not to actually kill the enemy but to learn about the game. If you restart in the end even if you were able to pull this off might not be a bad thing.
Can someone take out Cadre now? They are not newbie friendly. Just came out of protection when someone take out my main some days ago.
Its still a mystery to me after all there is bigger village than mine that time.
I wish I know how to restart.
Now they are messing with newcomers. Perhaps some tribe can help Cadre retire, a coalition perhaps? Yeah world peace! *hides in the closet*
There is no newbie friendly. This is a war game not simcity. Get used to it. Search for some guides. Learn about the game and fight back. And do not search a coalition of the unskilled. Get the skills instead.